Dating other people in long distance relationship
I remember I forgot the date and time my boyfriend was coming to visit and couldn’t recall if he had sent it via Facebook, Twitter, Gmail or Instagram. Create a schedule for communication you and your sweetheart can commit and stick to — this builds routine and anticipation for “seeing” each other.
In his past LDR, my friend Anthony suddenly got buried in a flood of texts, Skype voicemails, and Google chats. This is very helpful especially if you live in opposite time zones (example: he lives in Seattle, US and she lives in Singapore) and it can be hard to find a common time to talk.
Years later, I would find myself in not one but two long-distance relationships and discover that it wasn’t all hugs, kisses, and Hollywood fairytale endings. Start harping on wanting commitment and you will see your partner run for the hills. Danielle fell head over heels in love with a backpacker, Tony, when they were traveling in Bolivia for a month.
The truth of the matter is long-distance relationships or LDRs are like a battle in the trenches. Unlike normal relationships, LDRs are devoid of all physical contact. It’s important to establish this before you start a long-distance relationship. Eventually they parted ways, Danielle returning to Belgium and Tony to the States, with the promise of doing long distance till they see each other again. They had not known each other long enough to build the foundation of their relationship.
Then you remember you have to Skype with your boyfriend later in the evening.
During the early days (the first couple of months, at least) don’t rush into vulnerability, set a pattern of talking for hours every day, or make serious commitments.
There are all sorts of things you can only learn about someone face to face, but the initial reason why it’s a good idea to meet in person ASAP is simple: You may have great chemistry on paper or over the phone, and absolutely none in person. Discuss some of your communication basics as a couple–how you generally prefer to connect (phone, Vo IP, text), what times, and for how long.
However, if you can’t consistently make talking with your partner a priority, reconsider whether you should be in the relationship.
When you’re in a long distance relationship it’s easier to hide your weaknesses and put your best foot forward.