Dating an ex nun
So, how do nuns deal with the temptation of wanting sex?
I think the first thing is to remember that wanting sex isn’t bad in and of itself.
Just because you are married doesn’t mean you don’t find another person attractive or have great chemistry with someone.
In fact married people might even “fall in love” with someone else, but that doesn’t mean they have to act on it.
‘Write how you really see yourself and not what you’d like to be perceived as, or what you want to project. ‘Sometimes people get disappointed to hear this because they think: “Oh.
That’s gonna be way too exhausting to try to live up to.’ As for those all-important first dates, her tips for men and women are the same. I thought it was more magical and full of sparkles than that.” ‘Don’t worry: there’s plenty of magic and sparkles.
‘They can be a wonderful way to match up values, interests and goals, as well as get to know someone from the inside out first,’ she said. ‘There isn’t just one person out there for you who is the only one, the exact right one. ‘Married couples fall in and out of love all the time. You have to stick it out to get to the really good stuff.’ Amen to that. Know yourself Know your strengths and weaknesses in relationships. Don’t compromise on what’s important just so you won’t be lonely. Agree, at the outset of the relationship, on digital behavior when you’re together. Be totally honest with each other about the relationship The surest way to never find true love is to play games and treat love like a game. Find things you like to do together Have some common interests.
For a nun, we vow to be celibate and so we choose to express union and love in other ways, such as through our community life, our relationships, and our ministry (Check out my post Do nuns know how to love? We have to acknowledge to ourselves a sexual urge we may have (not bury it as if it’s not there) and find ways to deal with it in a healthy way.
Sister Helena Burns, a nun at the Daughters of Saint Paul, thinks so. If you have to be someone else for someone to like you? It’s going to be way too much work to keep up that front.
But, in an age of quickfire swiping and online matchmaking, can a more traditional approach to dating be a positive step? You might also find another good person working side by side with you. Remember relationships are good times and bad times- Sickness and health, richer and poorer…
), I fell in love with someone I’d know throughout grad school.
Horrified that I fell in love while considering religious life, I went to my nun mentor and told her.