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You really need to be patient and try to understand that he is dealing with some extreme heartbreak. Sometimes people say things because they mean them and then something happens that makes them reassess their feelings. He truly wants you to be happy, but he is probably anguishing so much right now, he knows he wouldn't be a good fit for you. No matter how pretty you paint the picture, you are involved with another woman's husband until that divorce is FINAL.
Honestly, and this is my opinion, he told you these things to push you away so that it will be easier for him. So he is telling you to move on..is afraid of you, women in general, right now and he is afraid of hurting you because of those issues with women. Make sure you have the respect or the distance either one. Until that divorce is FINAL, his commitment is to her...legally, financially, and sometimes emotionally.
He used to a lot nicer to me, at least butter me and sweeten me up with lots of texts and phone calls the week leading up to a meet up and then afterwards its like he would;t have the time of day for me.
I really think I am zoo naive and must have the word TARGET indented on my forehead because I seem to so vulnerable to these types of men.I was gutted that he just sat back and let me say my piece and he didnt give me any rebuttal or even try to reassure me that I am more to him than just a distraction.I was happy before I met him, and he came into my life leading me to believe that we would fall in love and end up together forever and now I know that he never really wanted me.I am deeply sadened and feel I've done something to cause him to want to end this relationship. I would think he is going through reality phase of a very difficult time. Lovingly give him his space and let him work his man thing out. We have hardly spoken since returning from a vacation that ended with him cancelling our valentines plans. For example, if he needs someone to talk to, he may just turn to you again. Well it has been a week since my relationship ended and I am still crying.It could also be he is going through a rough time and doesn't want to be dissing on you. It also may be that he wants to be sure about all his feelings and needs space. The vacation went well so I was confused and upset by his actions. If you can be there for him, without causing yourself pain, you may find a friendship grows that he relies on. I am trying to keep it together at work but it is challenging. I received a text from him today telling me not to be sad because I will meet my "prince charming on my next holiday" (which is the end of March).