Black women feel interracial dating
With black educated women outpacing black men 3 to 1, what leads black men to choose a white woman over a black woman? I often struggle to articulate this critique, when I think on a micro-level it is hard to criticize anyone's relationship - just as those who stand jeering on the sidelines of interracial relationships miss what is special there.
But I also think there is something to be said about the way in which gender, stereotypes and our nation's history (where black boys were lynched for looking at white women) has impacted the makeup of black/white relationships. There were actually quite a few women I interviewed for Don't Bring Home A White Boy who expressed your exact sentiments: they resented black men with white wives.
_______________________ Arlington, VA: What effect, if any, does an inter-racial marriage have upon the children that result?
Karyn Folan: Hello, I talked to several experts-- social psychologists and others who have studied or worked with the children of interracial unions.
We need to make sure we have stable loving relationships with our spouses. I appreciate your perspective and wonder if I could ask what your thoughts are on the statistic quoted in the article regarding the percentage of black men with white women (I believe 73% of black/white relationships? As a person who is currently in a serious relationship with a white man, I embrace your motto!
However I often find myself criticizing successful black men who seem to only date white women.
Read more: Single black women being urged to date outside race ____________________ Karyn Folan: Thanks to all of you who have taken the time post questions and comments.
I do hope that you will pick up a copy of "Don't Bring Home A White Boy (And Other Notions That Keep Black Women from Dating Out).
To me, they're just "my family" not my "interracial family." _______________________ Washington, DC: I am a white man in a relationship with a black woman and we recently were out with four other couples celebrating a friends birthday. I suspect that there is a huge shift taking place, and I personally believe this a huge step toward greater racial healing in our country./************************************************* * 10. Submit your questions and comments before or during the discussion.Three of the couples were white/black, one was black/mixed race and one was black/black. _______________________ Raleigh, NC: I am a black woman who already has a son by a black man.Even more surprising to us, was that three of the five were comprised of white men and black women. I worry that dating a white guy may adversely affect my son.